Buying a car

The meeting last night went as well as i could have expected. A solid man with purpose, a good deal of life under His belt, driven and focussed. He made a good point about the process of meeting people, however. It felt as if He was buying a car.

There isn't a lot that i can say about the process of vanilla meeting beyond that it is a required test to see if personalities click or not. Call it mechanical, call it unfeeling, even, but at some point a meeting has to take place and what better way to talk about things than face to face. Much quicker than going back and forth over a chat system.

From my side, it is a necessary effort and worth going through the barrier of awkward feelings, as well as putting up the time and the fuel costs. Sometimes it can also act as a protection against the people who have no intention of actually making good on their promises and chat. More than once have i been left in a service station to sample the late evening coffee alone. It has, however, saved me considerable wasted time in chatting on various systems and made more time available for those who are serious in their intentions. Yes, i do mean considerable wasted time ... it is often the most ingenuous who will make considerable demands on someones time once they have got them hooked.

There are plenty of people who are more than willing to waste my time; many who get a kick out of stringing me along ... well i've got news for those people ... you won't get much stringing out of me ... you'll have to put up, or shut up; giving myself to someone for the long term is a serious business and i'm damned if i'm going to treat the issue lightly.

Dragging my feet also isn't fair to other people who have come forward and are as anxious to progress as others are to take their time. Whatever i do, or don't do, i can't win, so aproaching the subject of a meeting has to be through a mechanism that may well appear unfeeling and impersonal ... but that is the whole point; to see if anything personal comes from it. It may seem harsh and unfeeling ... but have faith...